Is there a “magic” method to get my ex back, you ask? It may be hard to believe, but yes, there are words and techniques that will cast a spell and make your ex want to call you back. That’s great, isn’t it? I am going to show you how to do this because it is one of the most frequently asked question from my suscribers that want to know: how to get my ex back.

“How to get my ex back” will start with getting your ex to return your phone call, IM or text message. Remember, this can be done easily, but it’s just a simple formula and not a complete plan. You can learn more about that in my website. If you do this right, it will be the begining of a wonderfull get back together with your ex.

Let’s start whit What NOT to Say. These are the usual mistakes people make, so don’t fall for them. Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost NEVER works. And worse, puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD. Where the message sounds like “John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.” Of course, this call is not going to be returned. And if it is, you will be in a disadvantage position. You don’t want your ex to call you back because he pities you!

And the EMERGENCY. “Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.” This is an awful way to try to get your ex attention. It may work the first time, if your ex thinks you are really in an emergency, but once the truth is discovered, you will be considered a liar and desperate. This is only going to get your ex farther from you.

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches? There are much better ways to get your ex attention back. Since there are a number of methods you can use, let’s start with some of the basic ones.

How to use curiosity & self interest to your advantage. Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are curiosity and self Interest. And here’s the BIG SECRET! When you combine the two, you have a recipe that will work magic. So, let’s look at what you can say that works nearly every time.

In a friendly tone: “Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.” Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest? John will not be able to resist! “What did I do?” “What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message. This is a call that is going to be returned.

Now, Before you call you need to do the “Set Up”, which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate. It can be any small thing, but needs to be plausible. Think about the times you spent togheter, when she/he pointed something about you, or gave you an advice or maybe let you talk when you needed it most. Surely there are some good things you can think about. But more importantly, please have an underlying strategy before you call. If you don’t, you will get the call back, and date with your ex, but no more than that and you will be back to square one.

With this simple method, you will have your ex calling you, but is only a part of a larger strategy. If you really want to get your ex back, you have to have a plan. You now can have a call and maybe a date. Now you have to work to get your ex back.

There it is. Three powerful steps to get your ex back. Recover the magic of that moments with the one you love.