One of the biggest issues I have to deal with when it comes to my students is the idea that they are too ugly to attract women.

There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as:

They could be too old.

Some think they’re too fat.

Some think they’re too short.

Some men think they are too ugly.

These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.

This simply is not the truth.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 – Women are only attracted to good looking men.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

As a general rule of thumb, I like to say: It’s important to look good, but it’s not important to be good looking!

What’s the difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women and Men Think Alike

Naturally, we all think that everyone sees things in the same way you see those things.

For instance – If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

Naturally, we practice this attitude while summing others up. Do you judge a woman by the way she looks? Of course you do, since you are able to determine by visually appraising her whether you think she is attractive.

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.

This is incorrect.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice Men’s Insecurities

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline…

No matter what it is, we see it!

Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

This is probably the biggest myth there is – that if a guy is good looking, girls will automatically flock to him.

Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.

Attraction is the art of magnifying the emotional connection that a woman feels for you, when you are around, this connection will only occur when you are around her, therefore to feel those feelings she will want you to be around her.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.

Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is when seduction comes into play.

Despite any shortcoming you may think you have, once you begin leading a woman down the path of sexual attraction, she begins to see you in a much different light, so you do not have to look like the cover guy on GQ.

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